In this book Wendy Billington gently explores ways of helping people remove the 'I'm fine!' mask and grow through the challenges posed by issues such as loneliness, low self-esteem and parenting pain, as well as a variety of addictive behaviours. Those struggling with particular problems in their lives may feel they can't be honest about their circumstances even - perhaps especially - in a church context. Isolation, shame, and anxiety about how others will perceive them can add to their difficulties, compounding them with a sense of being locked in with the problem.
Using case studies, Bible teaching and practical guidelines, Wendy shows how church members can understand and support one another, not only helping individuals but building a community that is characterised by loving, sensitive pastoral care.
I have known Wendy for many years as a friend and as a pastoral carer. She is passionate about people-helping and about churches becoming places where we can be real with ourselves, one another and God so as to facilitate genuine community and individual growth into wholeness. Drawing on her own personal life as well as on her long and wide pastoral experience and her scriptural insights, Wendy makes practical suggestions as to how these goals can be achieved.
Jean Watson, contributor, Day by Day with God
Sensitively uncovers the varied pains that might lie behind that cheery 'I'm fine, thanks!' - and particularly the shame that keeps things locked away in secret.
From the foreword by Steve Motyer